TRENDsexuals: I kissed a girl and I liked it

27 Sep

Humans do not represent two discrete populations, heterosexual and homosexual. “The world is not to be divided into sheep and goats. Not all things are black nor all things white. It is a fundamental of taxonomy that nature rarely deals with discrete categories. Only the human mind invents categories and tries to force facts into separated pigeon-holes. The living world is a continuum in each and every one of its aspects. The sooner we learn this concerning human sexual behaviour, the sooner we shall reach a sound understanding of the realities of sex.”

-Alfred Kinsey

Historically, bisexuality has been viewed as disgraceful, degrading, and unrespectable. People who were sexually attracted to both sexes were thought to be “just experimenting” and would soon fall into one category or another (heterosexual or homosexual). However, bisexuality is more than just “trial and error,” it is the ability to see past the sexual organs of others in order to appreciate and sustain romantic relationships with both men and women.

Despite the history of negative attitudes toward bisexuality, a recent shift has made bisexuality (specifically among women) trendy. What is accountable for this shift you ask? Well, it is becoming more and more commonplace for women (specifically adolescents and young adults) to hook-up with other women to gain the attention of men. Particularly, these young women are not necessarily interested in actually dating another woman, they just use bisexuality to seek male attention.

Although this shift may be a positive indication of the change in people’s attitudes toward bisexuality, particularly the increased acceptance of bisexuality among the younger demographic, bisexual expression remains a tricky topic. Young adults who have actually struggled to overcome the different challenges associated with non-heterosexuality may find it annoying that other women are adopting their label to attract attention.

Additionally, “trendy bisexual women” (also known as “party bi”) may express feelings of open-mindedness because of their attempt to “test out the waters” sexually with other women. Their drunken “exotic experiment” becomes a bragging point to illustrate their spirit and acceptance of others. I do not mean to discourage sexual experimentation, if done for the right reasons. Sexual exploration is commendable, but selfishly motivated exploration is not. Using bisexual experimentation as a means to attract male attention perpetuates the idea that those who do not identify with pure heterosexuality are merely confused.

It is important to note, that these trendy bisexuals only appear among women and the negative attitudes still surround bisexual men. Furthermore, I want to make myself clear when I say exploring your sexuality is healthy, but when done for the right reasons. Trendy bisexuals may spread the wrong message and “true bisexuals” may take offense to those using bisexuality as a means.


Posted by on September 27, 2011 in Uncategorized


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3 responses to “TRENDsexuals: I kissed a girl and I liked it

  1. Randi thompson

    September 27, 2011 at 7:30 pm

    I agree with Kinsey that sexuality is fluid. I have read a great book about female sexual fluidity over the over of ones life time, but I don’t think that the the attitudes toward bisexual is becoming more positive. I classify myself as bi and I get asked by friends when I will just pick a side. My friends don’t mind jut pickin a side they mean their side my lesbian friends tell me I am going to the dark side when I like a boy and boys only see threesomes when i tell them I am bi. I truly believe “party bi” are changing the face of bisexuality but not in a good way. It hurts people and almost seems to mock the hard time gay’s actually go through. Exploring your sexuality is great and I do agree that you should, but don’t do it just for attention which seems to happen a lot now a days! I have friends that have gotten there heart broken because girls like the attention that another girl will give. All I have to say to those selfish people is GROW UP!

  2. Anonymous

    September 28, 2011 at 3:44 am

    I am a gay American and have friends that are bisexual, I too believe that the growing “acceptance” of “party gays” is hurting those who are dealing with struggles in their lives with trying to fit into a society that is rejecting them for who they are, and for something they did not choose. It isn’t a cop out to say that your are bisexual, they have a great ability to see people for who they truly are rather than what anatomy they have. This isn’t a phase that they are going through, and anyone who says that can pull their head out of the sand anytime now! Unfortunately as stated above, men accept it because to them it is a turn on and they think that this is their best chance for a threesome, women see it as a way to get a males attention for just that reason, they know that he’ll like it. No one stops to think that it goes beyond the sex and that it is really about how one person connects with another and a strong relationship is behind it all, just like any heterosexual relationship. We may be drawn to different genders than one other but we all deserve the utmost respect. And I second Randi… Grow up!

    • Turned On

      September 28, 2011 at 12:00 pm

      Thanks to the both of you, I really appreciate your feedback. Please spread the word regarding my blog. I would love more feedback and discussion.


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