Monthly Archives: September 2011

Sexcapade of the Day: Slippery When Wet!

Anyway – my girlfriend and I were taking a shower together in a tub and began getting amorous.  Our height differences made penetration challenging, so she suggested that I sit on the edge of the tub facing inward while she straddled me in the opposite direction.  This worked great for awhile but due to the water on the edge of the tub and her increased force and tempo, she knocked me off the edge of the tub and onto the floor.  But not before the side of my face smacked off the toilet bowl.

I had a difficult time explaining my black eye at work the next day!

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Posted by on September 30, 2011 in Uncategorized


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Attention to all “Turned-On” readers! I have have just been informed that the television show associated with this blog will begin filming in the next few weeks. For the purposes of the show, I want to include a blog component that expresses the opinions/questions from my viewers and readers!

The first episode is discussing oral sex and I need your help! If you have any questions related to oral sex please submit them through the “Ask Ashley” tab. Furthermore, if you have any feedback or comments related to the topics listed below, please comment directly on this post! THANK YOU!

(1) Do you think oral sex is more intimate than sexual intercourse? Why or why not?

(2) Who performs more oral sex, men or women? In other words, in heterosexual relationships, do men go down more often than women?

(3) How old were you when you first had oral sex?

(4) What were your reasons for engaging in oral sex?

(5) Do you wear protection when engaging in oral sex? Why or why not?

(6) Do you have any tips for how to give better head? How about any tips for “eating out” a female?

(7) Are you able to climax when having oral sex performed on you? Is it easier to climax when receiving oral sex or when engaging in sexual intercourse?




Posted by on September 28, 2011 in Uncategorized


TRENDsexuals: I kissed a girl and I liked it

Humans do not represent two discrete populations, heterosexual and homosexual. “The world is not to be divided into sheep and goats. Not all things are black nor all things white. It is a fundamental of taxonomy that nature rarely deals with discrete categories. Only the human mind invents categories and tries to force facts into separated pigeon-holes. The living world is a continuum in each and every one of its aspects. The sooner we learn this concerning human sexual behaviour, the sooner we shall reach a sound understanding of the realities of sex.”

-Alfred Kinsey

Historically, bisexuality has been viewed as disgraceful, degrading, and unrespectable. People who were sexually attracted to both sexes were thought to be “just experimenting” and would soon fall into one category or another (heterosexual or homosexual). However, bisexuality is more than just “trial and error,” it is the ability to see past the sexual organs of others in order to appreciate and sustain romantic relationships with both men and women.

Despite the history of negative attitudes toward bisexuality, a recent shift has made bisexuality (specifically among women) trendy. What is accountable for this shift you ask? Well, it is becoming more and more commonplace for women (specifically adolescents and young adults) to hook-up with other women to gain the attention of men. Particularly, these young women are not necessarily interested in actually dating another woman, they just use bisexuality to seek male attention.

Although this shift may be a positive indication of the change in people’s attitudes toward bisexuality, particularly the increased acceptance of bisexuality among the younger demographic, bisexual expression remains a tricky topic. Young adults who have actually struggled to overcome the different challenges associated with non-heterosexuality may find it annoying that other women are adopting their label to attract attention.

Additionally, “trendy bisexual women” (also known as “party bi”) may express feelings of open-mindedness because of their attempt to “test out the waters” sexually with other women. Their drunken “exotic experiment” becomes a bragging point to illustrate their spirit and acceptance of others. I do not mean to discourage sexual experimentation, if done for the right reasons. Sexual exploration is commendable, but selfishly motivated exploration is not. Using bisexual experimentation as a means to attract male attention perpetuates the idea that those who do not identify with pure heterosexuality are merely confused.

It is important to note, that these trendy bisexuals only appear among women and the negative attitudes still surround bisexual men. Furthermore, I want to make myself clear when I say exploring your sexuality is healthy, but when done for the right reasons. Trendy bisexuals may spread the wrong message and “true bisexuals” may take offense to those using bisexuality as a means.


Posted by on September 27, 2011 in Uncategorized


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A fellow graduate student of mine, Krystelle Shaughnessy, has recently been recognized for her exceptional work that focuses on Online Sexual Activity (OSA), more commonly known as cybersex. Although the world wide web is used in almost every aspect of people’s lives (e.g., finding recipes for dinner, checking the weather, planning a vacation, back to school shopping), the most common activity among internet surfer’s is sexual activity. According to Shaughnessy’s study, whether it be shopping for a new battery-operated-boyfriend, viewing the occasional naughty school girl video, reading the online blog “Turned-on,” or dirty skyping with a partner, people engage in online sexual activity (on average) about two to three times a month.

Although researching cybersex is not a new phenomena, past studies have often focused solely on sex addiction, deviant behaviour and child pornography, with little attention to “normal” online sexual activity. Shaughnessy’s research is responsible for shedding a whole new light on cybersex, by normalizing this incredibly frequent behaviour.

Just because this work has received tremendous attention from the media (click here to see more), does not mean Shaughnessy is stopping here. In fact, she is currently following up this research by finding out exactly who people are having cybersex with, exciting! We can all thank Shaughnessy for increasing our understanding of how the “ever-evolving internet” impacts our sex lives!

If you are interested in participating in Shaughnessy’s current study click here.

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Posted by on September 15, 2011 in Uncategorized


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Sexcapade of the Day: Canine Panty Raid

One day my boyfriend and I were messing around in is room at his parent’s house. His room is in the basement so we had the door ajar for the majority of our “activities.” After finishing up, I went to get dressed but my underwear were missing. My stomach began to turn as I remembered how much my boyfriend’s dog liked the smell of dirty clothes. As it turns out, the dog had taken my lace underwear out of the room into the kitchen during his family’s dinner time and licked them in front of everyone. How embarrassing, maybe in the future I will consider going commando!

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Posted by on September 13, 2011 in Uncategorized


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Ask Ashley Answer: I am interested in introducing some light bondage into sexual sessions with my girlfriend. How can I do this without freaking her out?

Bondage, for those of you who are unfamiliar, is the use of physical restraints during sex to enhance sexual pleasure. Bondage is often included in a larger spectrum of activities that has been given the acronym BDSM (Bondage & Discipline, Dominance & Submission, and Sadism & Masochism). Normally, bondage involves a dominant (“the one who ties”) and submissive (“the one who is tied”) partner, making it important to obtain both partner’s consent.

Bondage encompasses a variety of activities, for example, tying a partner’s appendages together (the use of handcuffs) or spreading the appendages and fastening them with chains are two types of bondage activities. The activities can also range in intensity from the use of simple blindfolds to the more extreme use of gags and wood stocks.

To some, bondage might seem a bit extreme but, according to several studies, approximately half of both men and women have experimented with some type of bondage activity.

So, how do you introduce the idea of bondage to a partner? First, try to avoid bringing it up during the act, you want to make sure your partner is as receptive as possible. The best time for discussion is to sit down with your partner during everyday activities (i.e., having dinner, watching TV, etc.). It can be a difficult thing to address with a partner because it can often be taken the wrong way, you do not want your partner to think your are dissatisfied. An easy way to approach the topic is by prefacing with “Hey, I read an interesting article the other day” or “Guess what so-and-so told me?” This way you can gauge your partner’s response and expand on the topic further if it feels right. If your partner is feeling slightly uncomfortable with the idea, you can always suggest starting out slow.

ALWAYS make sure to respect your partner, especially during bondage activities and make sure that you both feel as comfortable as possible.


Posted by on September 6, 2011 in Uncategorized


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